Introverted: 100%
iNtuitive: 62%
Feeling: 62%
Judging: 22%
INFJs are deeply concerned about their relations with individuals as well as the state of humanity at large. They are, in fact, sometimes mistaken for extroverts because they appear so outgoing and are so genuinely interested in people -- a product of the Feeling function they most readily show to the world. On the contrary, INFJs are true introverts, who can only be emotionally intimate and fulfilled with a chosen few from among their long-term friends, family, or obvious "soul mates." While instinctively courting the personal and organizational demands continually made upon them by others, at intervals INFJs will suddenly withdraw into themselves, sometimes shutting out even their intimates. This apparent paradox is a necessary escape valve for them, providing both time to rebuild their depleted resources and a filter to prevent the emotional overload to which they are so susceptible as inherent "givers." As a pattern of behavior, it is perhaps the most confusing aspect of the enigmatic INFJ character to outsiders, and hence the most often misunderstood -- particularly by those who have little experience with this rare type.
As evidenced by the fact that I scored 100% for introversion, I definitely feel that I need significant time alone to think about and process the events of the day, my thoughts, world peace, etc. Also, the more stressed out I get, the more alone time I need. I also identify quite a bit with the idea of having a few intimate friends who are privy to much more than everyone else. While I have many good friends, I have two very BEST friends and my sister, whom I confide in significantly more than other people. Thought it is rare, I do sometimes retreat away from even my closest three people, even though I wish I didn't. And speaking of rare, the INFJ type is actually the rarest of the 16 types, describing only 1-3% of the population!
INFJs are champions of the oppressed and downtrodden. They often are found in the wake of an emergency, rescuing those who are in acute distress. INFJs may fantasize about getting revenge on those who victimize the defenseless. The concept of 'poetic justice' is appealing to the INFJ. Although they want to get along with others and support them in their goals, they are fiercely loyal to their own system of values and will not follow others down a path that does not feel authentic to them. When they sense that their values are not being respected, or when their intuition tells them that someone’s intentions are not pure, they are likely to withdraw. Because Counselors initially appear so gentle and reserved, they may surprise others with their intensity when one of their values is threatened or called into question. Their calm exterior belies the complexity of their inner worlds.
Thought it is not exactly the most productive way of thinking about things, I definitely see my affinity for wanting to avenge those who are mistreated, ESPECIALLY if it happens to be about one of my close three friends. I have said on more than one occasion that I just wish I could shake the person until they see why what he or she is doing is WRONG, and I have fantasized at times about getting revenge against people who disgust me most. I have a very decided set of values and when people unabashedly deny my values, I will not tolerate it. This has become more and more evident lately, as certain parts of my life have repeatedly forced me into situations where people in authority not only disagree with my values, but outright call them evil.
When engaged in conversation with an INFJ, pay attention! INFJs abhor small talk, and seek deep, meaningful conversations with someone who is willing to set aside all distractions and fully devote himself to the discussion at hand. So, turn off the T.V. or radio, sit down, listen thoughtfully, speak truthfully, and take an active interest in the conversation. When an INFJ is speaking with you, his attention is fully devoted to you. She expects nothing less in return.I absolutely detest when I feel like people aren't listening when I am trying to have a deep conversation with him or her. For example, I am a sports-passive kind of person living in a house of people who adore sports. Sometimes when I am trying to say something, even just a passing thought, I become frustrated because I know that they are not listening to what I am saying.
INFJs are “old souls.” Many grow up feeling wiser than would be predicted by their chronological age. Having discovered the benefits of their Introverted Intuition (Ni) quite early in life, INFJs grow to trust its judgments and insights. They may take on the role of counseling and advising their friends and siblings, or even adult family members, from a fairly young age. Their gift for providing wise counsel often continues into adulthood. INFJs often feel happiest and most fulfilled when helping others understand themselves and their problems.Ever since I was very young, many people have felt very open with sharing secrets or problems with me, even just to have someone to listen. My personality type apparently leads people to, without really thinking about it, know that I am someone who is willing to listen and discuss important issues. I want so deeply for people to be happy and to get along with each other, so I help that along as much as I possibly can.
Because of their strength of intuition, many INFJs report feeling like aliens in the world. One INFJ described her experience as a constant feeling of deja vu. Others report feelings of disembodiment. The fact is that many INFJs seem to experience the world and their bodies differently than other types do. It is therefore not uncommon for INFJs or others to occasionally question their sanity. INJFs are also likely to be caught "staring off into space." This is a direct result of the introverted thinking, in which the INFJ begins thinking so deeply within her mind that she forgets that she is living in the physical world as well. If you see an INFJ doing this, there is a good chance that she is contemplating ideas, abstract theories, the human condition, as well as the implications of all of the above. Do not disturb unless absolutely necessary, as she may be formulating the plan for world peace.
I find myself feeling this way all the time. I have found that I have uncommonly frequent instances of deja vu, and very often have a sense of disembodiment. I start thinking about something in my head and tune out everything that may be happening around me while I stare off into space. After a while, I "come to" and almost every time I have a sort of realization that, oh yeah, I'm living in a physical world, not just a mental one. This, of course, sounds absolutely absurd, but I can't really help it.
The INFJ empathy can serve as a classic example of the two-edged nature of certain INFJ talents, as it can be strong enough to cause discomfort or pain in negative or stressful situations. More explicit inner conflicts are also not uncommon in INFJs; it is possible to speculate that the causes for some of these may lie in the specific combinations of preferences which define this complex type. For instance, there can sometimes be a "tug-of-war" between NF vision and idealism and the J practicality that urges compromise for the sake of achieving the highest priority goals. And the I and J combination, while perhaps enhancing self-awareness, may make it difficult for INFJs to articulate their deepest and most convoluted feelings.
I have always hated conflict. No question. I absolutely hate when people are mean to each other, when people yell at each other, when I'm asked to take sides. It makes me feel so uncomfortable when people can't get along, and especially when people can't find it in themselves to compromise.
Usually self-expression comes more easily to INFJs on paper, as they tend to have strong writing skills.
I definitely see this in myself, as I sometimes feel that the only way to say what I want to say is to think it out while writing it down. I never show anyone those things that I write down (see above note), but it helps me process what I feel and think better than any other way I can think of. However, this has led to me needing quite a bit of time to write, no matter what it is I'm writing for. Whether it be a personal thought or a timed write, I crave having time to say what I want to say, no more, no less.
None of the descriptions specifically did not describe me, but some were less noticeable in my life.
Special extra note: One of the famous individuals listed as an INFJ happens to be Fyodor Dostoyevsky.
Affirmation Solicitation- Mr. Gritter
1.) Smart
2.) Thoughtful
3.) Honest
4.) Diligent
5.) Humble
Perhaps the greatest compliment I can pay Hannah is that she is my daughter's tutor. Asking someone to mentor my daughter academically is a daunting task, but I know Hannah has the intelligence, patience, and intellectual acumen to do the job well.
Hannah is thoughtful, conscientious ad generally kind. She has a hunger for learning that is genuinely admirable and her enthusiasm is infectious. As a student in my AP class, I saw Hannah challenge herself, struggle, and persevere. In total, Hannah has the characteristics that make her not only an excellent student and teacher, but an impressive, well-rounded individual as well.
Usually self-expression comes more easily to INFJs on paper, as they tend to have strong writing skills.
None of the descriptions specifically did not describe me, but some were less noticeable in my life.
Special extra note: One of the famous individuals listed as an INFJ happens to be Fyodor Dostoyevsky.
Affirmation Solicitation- Mr. Gritter
1.) Smart
2.) Thoughtful
3.) Honest
4.) Diligent
5.) Humble
Perhaps the greatest compliment I can pay Hannah is that she is my daughter's tutor. Asking someone to mentor my daughter academically is a daunting task, but I know Hannah has the intelligence, patience, and intellectual acumen to do the job well.
Hannah is thoughtful, conscientious ad generally kind. She has a hunger for learning that is genuinely admirable and her enthusiasm is infectious. As a student in my AP class, I saw Hannah challenge herself, struggle, and persevere. In total, Hannah has the characteristics that make her not only an excellent student and teacher, but an impressive, well-rounded individual as well.
